Father Absence Effect

Father Absence Effect

Most people haves a notion, chlid is mother responsibility because father earns life. Considers again this opinion?sight! Because, its(the absence father in process of proven education has extraordinary impact for development of chlid.

Delivers education of child of only to mother, seems to must be re-studied. If joking we can spell out members, " Makes it is both oppositely after becoming the wife is ordered responsible x'self?" Of course there are some serious reason that need to be re-considered.

Firstly, chlid is fruit of love planned wanted and together between husbands and wife, which its(the presence is expected able to be sturdy and afirms the relation of they are as a family. Thereby, existence of child of is wife husband responsibility together.

Second, division of labor sexually ( according to gender), public business ( earns life) becomes father responsibility and domestic business ( educates chlid and manages household) becomes mother responsibility, now not relevant again. Most mother now also works, outside and or in house, to yield money. Imprecise if education of child of surrendered [by] only to mother.

Third, in process of growing flower, simply children requires presence of father and also mother as patron or peer and source of affection.

Father Sometime

In Japan, some people worries growth of lame metropolis children as result of its(the absence father in process of growing generation flower of the crystal. They is life in the same house, but with the lark when father has not woke up, chlid has leaved school. Nighttime when chlid has sleeped, the new father gone(come home.

So(after life they every day, so that children haves no opportunity to meet its(the father. Worryed of children in most prosperous state in that Asia even witness ( is meaning learning) how father and interaction mother also have never can.

If it does, is they can expected understands how men and woman of interaction well? Moreover, how children can grow individually fully and strong if presence of big null father?

Depiction of such situation is abundant possible. But, that thing can become commemoration for parent who is expecting children to grow is healthy physical and bounces it, in order not to disregard requirement of child of father presence would.

In Indonesia, we can witness many mans which only sometime just become father. Why called as sometime, because everyday of they don't give contribution to requirement of child of when facing learning process and x'self forming. Only sometime just they remembered and involved in chlid business.

That thing happened as result of its(the divorce and also light commitment of father to process grows chlid flower.

Other with in West, parent who divorced able to share in the case of managing chlid, in Indonesia divorce generally heedless children right. Even so there are attention, limited to the problem of expense of chlid told. In consequence, if happened divorce usually child of losing of one of its(the parent.

Affects Is ugly

There are some research result showing father absence effect, like cited [by] menweborg.

In study done by Kalter and Rembar from Children's Psychiatric Hospital, University of Michigan, AS, out of 144 samples child and initial adolescent which its(the parent divorced, found three main problems.

63 % chlid is experiencing subjective psychological problem, like jumpy, sorrowful, volatility mood, phobia, and depression. 56 % ability of its(the achievement is low - or below(under ability which they reached in before all. 43 % does aggression to parent.

In study done is special to woman children is found [by] result that is same approximately: 69 % experiences psychological problem, 47 % has academic problem, and 41 % does aggression to its(the parent.

In Journal of Divorce Harvard University, ACE, Rebecca L. Drill, PhD, tells, " its(the Parent divorcing effect and absence father then had negative extraordinary impact to chlid feeling. For example, divorce of parent and losing of proven father closely related to difficulty of child of doing adjustment in school, adjustment of social, and adjustment of person."

Brief said, without disregarding other research pickings showing that chlid which its(the parent divorced can succeed in life his(its, its(the absence father figure in life of child of having ugly impact to chlid. In consequence, better the fathers is not under estimate or too concerning low eigenvalue its(the role in process of growing chlid flower.

For this day forward

If You, the fathers, low commitment sense of belonging to education process of child of so that relation between father and child of becoming less near, far exhaust of idea " has have come too far unintentionally" from your marrow!

Prof. Rob Palkovitz, konselor and book writer about involvement of father, reminds, " Stops thinking of past, and focus your attention at where you wishs melangkah!"

Following some suggestions Palkovitz based on result of its(the research, its(the interaction with its(the four chlids, and its(the experience assisting children which its(the father is absent from their side:

" Focus attention at positive and correct things for you and chlid. For example, tells at yourself x'self, " What a priding upon it Ayah to strive to take care of family," without addition anything, and what a differed in it if there are addition, " But, what a more the goodly if Ayah a more regular resided in house." On the contrary, speaks to child of you, " What a its(the pride becomes Ayahmu, Nak," without have ever added sentence, " But, would more priding uponly if you can set right your room;chamber." If You got the picture both the things, meaned two steps to build relationship you had passed.

" need time through years to build relationship. In consequence, comprehends the existing of you resides in such point and wishs towards to such point.

" This life built by millions " by now." If You wish to build good relationship with children, starts by now.