Express Affection in the middle of Workdload
Children, especially balita, very requires attention of its(the parent, tries is just paid attention, if you are busy does something and like disregarding your balita, surely was just act of which s(he did to draw your attention. And, that usually is annoying mischief or deed, so that usually your dander also is fished.
If(when this process network always berulan, you are business, child of behaving, you fulminated, then returned to your workdload, is possibly felt by child of you? Not to mention if utterances that is impressing stamps exit from your mouth, like for example " naughty child bottom!", or " you this of course dibilangin cannot!". Utterance like that, besides not worth while because will not improve;repair chlid behaviour, also forms negative self-concept at chlid x'self. Chlid stamped is naughty can really naughty becoming because s(he to feel naughty child x'self and then instead will acquitt as according " label" which s(he receives.
Jalan best to overcome act of this balita is by giving does he is requiring. If s(he acted up, stops a moment your work and spares time to indicate that you pays attention to and loves it. Embraces s(he, invites speaking just, and tells clearly that you loves it. Then, explains to it you must finalize work, and will return to fiddles around with it if completed.
from :
Rachma, Bekasi
Sunday, December 7, 2008
preparation of child of becoming sister
preparation of child of becoming sister
CHILD OF usually of course at the time of big family is brightening up greets birth of its(the sister?brother. After on the warpath to people in the same house, the sister also has many possible new habits, according to both its(the old fellows, annoyed and menggemaskan. For example calling attention to more alwaysly enquires this and that, tells s(he cannot dress x'self, though before all s(he can do it. Or which more hard, child of woke up between two lights and says s(he cannot sleep and asks mother or father to accompanies and lulls it returns.
That clearly not be thing which easy. Months firstly has baby, a less sure mother referring to the regular has not baby sleep cycle. Besides, condition of physical of mother also has not too convalesce because copy process, causing faces position of chlid which jealous clearly requires patience.
Stres not necessarily or go with the stream fulminating faces position child of like that, because this case is not new thing for one families in educating and enlarges chlid. Based on survey done in United States, 92% child of will have the character of negativity at the time of birth of his(its new sister?brother.
This thing also is assumed very fair because basically every moppet always requires attention from people in around his(its, especially both its(the old fellows. So by coming it new member in family ( baby sister?brother) definitive becomes attention of all orangpadahal till now becoming cynosure is the " threat" for the chlid.
More than anything else if it is added frill of the chlid is expected to to become a good sister and can take care of fibre to love its(the sister?brother. Though on the other side the sister still hardly requires attention and affection. Isn't it true this very load weight to be shouldered a having age new moppet 4 year?
Will we disregard off hand feeling ( emotion) child of we which still be small? Of course no, because if we didn't mind emotional condition child of under the circumstances will have an effect on big to development of the relation of with its(the blood brother is later. Besides also will influence emotional intellegence child or EQ ( emotional quotient). Though intellegence of emotion will determine behavior of child of in interaction of its(the social after adult later.
Some tips following possibly will assist faces emotional condition child of in facing arrival of new sister?brother. Tips is divided into two time lines, before birth and after birth of the sister?brother.
At time line before birth:
- Tells to child of about our pregnancy. For example in mother stomach there are baby sister?brother candidate which later will born.
- Explains also men sister?brother or woman sister?brother has many equalities with the sister, for example doyan drinks milk, likes caressed and didongengin at the time of will sleep and others. For moppet would easy to receive existence of someone who is new if had many equalities with his(its.
Kramer L. and Ramsburg in its(the book Advice give to Parents on Welcoming a Second Baby, suggests that child of given opportunity often possible socialization to and has playfellow. This thing would increasingly easy to if chlid of course had goed to school or entered cluster to play at so that child of directly has learnt how having to shares and learning to esteem existence of others besides x'self.
Postnatal time line:
This time line is when critical because during this child of manifestly feels existence a " rival".
- Labours remain to gives big attention to the sister although in reality we would hardly is occupied with existence of the baby, family visit, other friend and rutinity in home. Therefore if enabling asks to close relative to bring other bingkisan for the sister besides for the baby sister?brother.
- Invites chlid at the time of beholding mother in home to copy that child of understanding that mother doesn't go to leave it but soon will return to new sister?brother mess. Will generate gladness?joy for child of that its(the mother would soon returns home.
- Still assist chlid although at the time of s(he shows " retrogression" in its(the behavior is everyday, for example still assist wearing clothes, accompanies playing at because position to call attention to this will not take
CHILD OF usually of course at the time of big family is brightening up greets birth of its(the sister?brother. After on the warpath to people in the same house, the sister also has many possible new habits, according to both its(the old fellows, annoyed and menggemaskan. For example calling attention to more alwaysly enquires this and that, tells s(he cannot dress x'self, though before all s(he can do it. Or which more hard, child of woke up between two lights and says s(he cannot sleep and asks mother or father to accompanies and lulls it returns.
That clearly not be thing which easy. Months firstly has baby, a less sure mother referring to the regular has not baby sleep cycle. Besides, condition of physical of mother also has not too convalesce because copy process, causing faces position of chlid which jealous clearly requires patience.
Stres not necessarily or go with the stream fulminating faces position child of like that, because this case is not new thing for one families in educating and enlarges chlid. Based on survey done in United States, 92% child of will have the character of negativity at the time of birth of his(its new sister?brother.
This thing also is assumed very fair because basically every moppet always requires attention from people in around his(its, especially both its(the old fellows. So by coming it new member in family ( baby sister?brother) definitive becomes attention of all orangpadahal till now becoming cynosure is the " threat" for the chlid.
More than anything else if it is added frill of the chlid is expected to to become a good sister and can take care of fibre to love its(the sister?brother. Though on the other side the sister still hardly requires attention and affection. Isn't it true this very load weight to be shouldered a having age new moppet 4 year?
Will we disregard off hand feeling ( emotion) child of we which still be small? Of course no, because if we didn't mind emotional condition child of under the circumstances will have an effect on big to development of the relation of with its(the blood brother is later. Besides also will influence emotional intellegence child or EQ ( emotional quotient). Though intellegence of emotion will determine behavior of child of in interaction of its(the social after adult later.
Some tips following possibly will assist faces emotional condition child of in facing arrival of new sister?brother. Tips is divided into two time lines, before birth and after birth of the sister?brother.
At time line before birth:
- Tells to child of about our pregnancy. For example in mother stomach there are baby sister?brother candidate which later will born.
- Explains also men sister?brother or woman sister?brother has many equalities with the sister, for example doyan drinks milk, likes caressed and didongengin at the time of will sleep and others. For moppet would easy to receive existence of someone who is new if had many equalities with his(its.
Kramer L. and Ramsburg in its(the book Advice give to Parents on Welcoming a Second Baby, suggests that child of given opportunity often possible socialization to and has playfellow. This thing would increasingly easy to if chlid of course had goed to school or entered cluster to play at so that child of directly has learnt how having to shares and learning to esteem existence of others besides x'self.
Postnatal time line:
This time line is when critical because during this child of manifestly feels existence a " rival".
- Labours remain to gives big attention to the sister although in reality we would hardly is occupied with existence of the baby, family visit, other friend and rutinity in home. Therefore if enabling asks to close relative to bring other bingkisan for the sister besides for the baby sister?brother.
- Invites chlid at the time of beholding mother in home to copy that child of understanding that mother doesn't go to leave it but soon will return to new sister?brother mess. Will generate gladness?joy for child of that its(the mother would soon returns home.
- Still assist chlid although at the time of s(he shows " retrogression" in its(the behavior is everyday, for example still assist wearing clothes, accompanies playing at because position to call attention to this will not take
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